You slide your nine iron out of your golf bag to hit your ball to the green. On what becomes a violent upswing, you immediately feel your rotator cuff shred. Perfecting your roundhouse kick, you collapse in pain at the snap of your hamstring. Immense apprehension swells the first time you hold your infant son and with wonder, you hold back the joyful tears. You double over in pain when your knee hyperextends during the frantic lunging forehand for the winning point. A blindside shot out of the blue, not as a quarterback, but as a loyal CEO for 30 years locked out of headquarters.
These types of defining moments rock your world. Uncharacteristically, your right brain kicks in and your mind races. You can’t sleep. You create long running movies in your head in an attempt to make sense of it all. Simple acts, like deliberately leaving your cell phone in the car, while you stand blankly watching the numbers at the gas pump click higher, one at a time, seems to be the only time your mind slows. You desperately try to snag moments of solace in an unforgiving world.
When you realize that your entire view of the world changes, in the course of an instant, it impacts every facet of your being. Your relationship with your loved ones, your eating habits, the way you interact with your coworkers and the way you approach leadership. My defining moment experience solidified my focus to create LeaderStep 7. Internal chatter was consuming my entire life and I realized that I had to start from scratch with my thoughts. After 30+ years of coaching and leading others, co-authoring my first book, teaching at university, completing my dissertation – I found myself lost. To get back on track, I experienced my first step by writing my personal mission statement. Don’t roll your eyes and think, what a cheesy first step for leadership. As human beings and leaders, we need to live with purpose, as Franklin Covey’s “Build a Mission Statement” screams at us. Are you wondering how completing a free, online form can change your life? I will tell you, it can. If it takes you over 20 minutes, you are overthinking it. Click here and get started – this simple exercise will help you define your life and what’s important.
If you read this far, thank you for indulging me. In the future, I also hope it prompts you to make a crucial move forward after your defining moment. Stop back to check in with me, as I share my journey creating “The 7 Steps of Intentional Leadership.”
What was your most recent “Ah Ha” moment?
“The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy.”
Martin Luther King, Jr.